We see it all the time, every day in our personal and professional lives.
We most certainly see it on the Internet, which gives people free speech but not the responsibility that goes with it. Cowards suddenly find courage on the Internet, where they can post lies, smears, and personal attacks while hiding behind the anonymity of their modem. They can engage in offensive behavior that would get them a punch in the nose if they did it in the real world.
I doubt poet Maya Angelou had that in mind when she wrote “Hater.” A friend sent me the poem a couple days ago after a spate of posts on various sites by anonymous people attacking me for saying that a certain recently published book had credibility problems.
Well, yesterday’s New York Times article validated what I’ve been saying for the last month. ‘Nuff said.
But given the general tendency on the Internet to smear someone when you can’t win an argument on its merits, I thought I’d share this poem with my readers because it has a lot to say about the world we live in.
A hater is someone who is jealous and envious and spends all
their time trying to make you look small so they can look tall.
They are very negative people to say the least. Nothing is ever
good enough! When you make your mark, you will always attract some
haters…That’s why you have to be careful with whom you share your
blessings and your dreams, because some folk can’t handle seeing you
It’s dangerous to be like somebody else…
If God wanted you to be like somebody else, He would have given
you what He gave them! Right? You never know what people have gone
through to get what they have.
The problem I have with haters is that they see my glory, but
they don’t know my story… If the grass looks greener on the other side
of the fence, you can rest assured that the water bill is higher there
We’ve all got some haters among us! People envy you because you can:
Have a relationship with God
Light up a room when you walk in
Start your own business
Tell a man / woman to hit the curb (if he / she isn’t about the right thing)
Raise your children without both parents being in the home
Haters can’t stand to see you happy, Haters will never want to
see you succeed, Haters never want you to get the victory, most of our
haters are people who are supposed to be on our side. How do you handle
your undercover haters?
You can handle these haters by:
1. Knowing who you are & who your true friends are *(VERY IMPORTANT!!)
2. Having a purpose to your life? Purpose does not mean having a job.
You can have a job and still be unfulfilled. A purpose is having
a clear sense of what God has called you to be. Your purpose is not
defined by what others think about you.
3. By remembering what you have is by divine prerogative and not
human manipulation. Fulfill your dreams!
You only have one life to live…when it’s your time to leave this earth,
you ‘want’ to be able to say, ‘I’ve lived my life and fulfilled
‘my’ dreams,… Now I’m ready to go HOME! When God gives you favor, you can
tell your haters, Don’t look at me…Look at Who is in charge of me…’
I think this also applies to fandom in general. Why do people look for the first opportunity to tear down a successful person? Maya Angelou has the answer — it’s jealousy.
Read Angels fan boards, and inevitably you’ll find people who claim to be Angels fans but have nothing positive to say. They look for any excuse to rip the players, management, executives. I remember one person telling me he would refuse to visit my web site unless I only wrote negative articles! Another person lectured that I should only write articles that would make me “popular.” ?! It’s not about being “popular,” it’s about expressing my opinion, like it or not. Maya Angelou’s warning about trying to be like everyone else reminded me of the demand that I only write articles which would make me “popular.”
One big reason why I’ve done FutureAngels.com since 1999 is I so enjoy being around a team environment where everyone is (or at least should be) geared to a common goal — winning. Individual goals are subservient to the team winning. I get to be around people who are positive, goal-oriented, and (for the most part) self-sacrificing.
It would be nice if the people who spend so much time on the Internet spewing bile would invest that time instead in making a positive contribution to humanity. But as Maya Angelou notes, for some people, “Nothing is ever good enough.”